Lynnea never looked at unhealthy relationships and saw herself. She realized she was in an abusive relationship and recognized that was not okay.

Recognizing the Signs

It’s not always easy to tell if a relationship is or will become abusive, and not all abusive relationships look the same. When you love someone, it can be hard to recognize the signs. It may feel like you don’t deserve better or don’t have a choice to leave.

The National Domestic Violence hotline identifies some behaviors as signs of possible abuse including:

  • Controlling who you see, where you go or what you do
  • Embarrassing or shaming you with put-downs
  • Using your HIV status to control or shame you

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The first step is recognizing that the situation is not okay. It doesn’t have to be this way. You can get the support and care you deserve.