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How do I talk to my partner about getting tested?

Dr. David: How do I bring up getting tested with my partner without him thinking it’s because I don’t trust him? I’m a doctor.

Dr. Demetre: I’m Dr. Demetre.

Dr. David: And I’m Dr. David.

Dr. Demetre: We’re HIV doctors.

Dr. David: And we’re here to answer your questions on HIV and sexual health. I think the way to couch it is to just start and say, “We’re looking kind of serious about this and I want to make sure that both of us is ok.” Or if you decide that you want to stop using condoms if you’ve been with your partner for awhile, um, “let’s go get tested together.” And the more normative it becomes to us to talk about things, the more natural it’ll become.

Interested in getting tested for HIV with your partner? Dr. David offers tips on how to get the conversation started.

There is no need to be shy about asking your partner about getting tested together. The more the conversation around HIV testing is normalized, the more natural getting tested together will become.

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