Love Saves Lives! 9

We Are Family! Love Saves Lives!

Whether it’s the one you are born into, or the one you create, family matters.

Research shows that people with HIV who have social support are more likely to get and stay in care, which means better health and fewer new infections.

To get the full health and preventive benefits of ARVs, it is important that an individual with HIV stays connected to medical care and continues to take their medications as prescribed, even if they do not feel sick. If you have HIV and are pregnant or planning on becoming pregnant (or have a partner who is) talk with a health care provider to determine the best health care options for yourself, your partner, and your baby.

Click here to find HIV care and services near you.

Select a topic below to get the latest facts about HIV, as well as tips for helping a loved one with HIV or telling friends and family you are living with HIV.

Finding Out a Loved One Has HIV

When a friend or family member shares that they have HIV, it shows they trust you.

One of the best things you can do is listen without judgment and offer your love and support.

Allow them to guide the conversation and share the level of detail that is comfortable for them. Let them know you are here to provide whatever help they may need. Support them in getting into care and on treatment.

Some things to keep in mind if someone tells you they have HIV:

  • HIV is not a death sentence. With ongoing treatment you can live a normal, healthy lifespan.
  • HIV is not spread through casual contact.
  • It is possible to have healthy intimate relationships. There are more options than ever to prevent the spread of HIV and keep you both healthy.
  • Keep it confidential. It is not your information to share and the consequences of doing so can be serious.
  • Your support will help them be healthier.

Helping a Loved One Get Into Care

Getting into and staying in care is critical to living well with HIV. Given the clear benefits, it’s recommended that people diagnosed with HIV start treatment as soon as possible.

You can show your support by offering to go with loved ones with HIV to appointments or to pick up their prescriptions. Keeping up with care and treatment is very important. If someone with HIV stops taking their medications, they can get very sick.

Click here to connect with HIV/AIDS treatment and care services in your area, including health clinics as well as support groups. These organizations can help with finding ongoing care and answering questions about health coverage.

Don’t have health coverage? The Affordable Care Act (ACA) made health insurance easier to get and more affordable for many people with HIV. Click here to find out more about the ACA for people with HIV. 

Telling a Loved One You Have HIV

Choosing if and when to tell someone that you have HIV is a personal decision.

Having trusted friends and/or family who know your HIV status may help you manage your diagnosis.

Having this conversation may bring up a range of emotions. Some things you may want to consider when sharing this information:

  • What kind of relationship do you have with this person?
  • What are the possible consequences of telling them that you have HIV?
  • Will telling them be a safe experience?
  • What is that person’s attitude and knowledge about HIV?
  • Is there information about HIV you can share that may be helpful?
  • Are there particular issues this person might have that will affect the support they can offer?

If you don’t have someone in your life you feel you can share this information with – or want added support – check out a local support group. You can talk with other people living with HIV and also get help from experts. What’s most important is that you get the support and care you deserve!

It is best to share your status with your partner before becoming intimate. In some states, it is a legal requirement.

While many people living with HIV have loving intimate relationships, for some, disclosure can lead to violence. To minimize risk, consider telling them in a public space with others around but private enough to talk. Or, have them talk with a health care provider to answer any questions they may have. Learn more about the connection between HIV and intimate partner violence.

Don’t let HIV stand in the way of love. People with different HIV statuses can have healthy and safe intimate relationships. There are more options than ever to prevent the spread of HIV and keep both of you healthy.